Something Controversal

Before I go into this I ask you go in with an open mind about eating, weight loss, and think about how we all are different things might work for you but not another person.

So, lets go back...way back to me in Jr High and High School shall we? If you knew me you never saw me eat at school did you? Why? Because I actually have a fear of eating in front of others, it makes me anxious. I have always been that way, but never told anyone really because come on it sounds stupid. I can eat in front of a few friends or family, but no one else. Heck I still feel weird eating in front of Sloan! I can't explain it it is just the way I am. I also never ate breakfast, because I wasnt hungry and it also makes me sick if I do. That means during high school I only ate one meal, dinner, that is it. I was skinny, I was healthy, I was in a good mood....sometimes...lol I also swam a couple miles 5 days a week, but you never saw me feeling bad from only eating one meal did you? Nope you did not. Why is that? Because I ate my daily calories from 5pm to 9 pm, I ate dinner and then usually a snack and that was it.

Now here we are years later and I have been struggling to get to where I was. You listen to all this stuff going around about how you should eat breakfast, you should eat small meals all day, you should count calories, you should only eat certain things, etc. We all believe it to be true right? Everyone is doing it, everyone is doing fine with it, but some dont! I have been trying for years to get to where I want to be, I get close, but it's very difficult for me everyday to eat constantly and wake up and eat breakfast...ugh just thinking about it drives me crazy! Now calorie counting did work for me to a point, but then it didn't.

Years of this constant trail and error got me thinking about those high school days. Even when I was done with swimming I still maintained my weight, in fact I did until I got pregnant with Jase, but why? You would think that I drop the swimming miles for 5 days but ate the same I would get fat right? But I didn't! I didn't until Jase was eating solids, I remember after I had him I was able to wear my high school jeans like I never had him...seriously!! Then I had to start feeding him lunch, so I started eating lunch. He got older and needed snacks, so I did the same. Then he started wanting breakfast and I did the same. I followed his schedule, and gained an insane amount! Ok insane for me anyways, I went from 140 to 170, after Caroline 180. Caroline is now 3 years old and after living like everyone tells you to do I have only been able to see 155!

3 years of weight going up and down, doing the 5 meal crap, forcing myself to eat breakfast, working out off and on. And I could not figure out why I wasnt dropping weight! Then I thought ok I'll eat clean, 3 weeks of it and I gained 5 lbs...Really?! So I started thinking about skinny me, how did I go all those years of maintaining my weight without changing anything...I ate one meal and only ate at a certain time of the day. BINGO! A light went off in my head! Stop forcing yourself to eat breakfast, eat 5 times a day, it is not working for ME!

With that thought going in my head I started searching online about this, and sure enough it actually has a name...intermittent fasting. Tons of articles about how for some people it is just normal for them to not want to eat, and that is me! I can't wait till 5 pm anymore but I am seriously not hungry until noon or 1 pm no matter what time I get up. To me I don't consider it fasting, its just normal for me to go long period without eating. So I started my normal eating habits again two weeks ago, except now I eat at noon and again around 5 pm with the kids. That is the only time I am hungry and the only time I have ever been hungry so it works. I am not having side effects of starving or anything because I am still getting my daily 1200 calories. Yes it means I eat more at each meal but then again I am going hours between meals. And this is coming from someone who gets extremely dizzy if my blood sugar gets low, I feel 100% fine.

You are probably wondering how much weight I have lost, 1 lbs a week, so 2 lbs. The considered healthy weight loss for everyone, something I have not seen since starting wanting to lose weight 3 years ago.

Do I think this is for everyone? Oh gosh no! Some people need to eat more than others to be happy and healthy. You have to do what is right for you and only you, but this is right for me. I dont have to think about it, there is no hard work with planning 5 small meals, I am not obsessing about food, I am living an easy day now, and I am in hopes that I will see that 140 or even 145 in my near future. 20 pounds to go!

How are you?

How am I today? Horrible and I can't shake it. I don't feel loved by a certain someone I don't have romantic memories of him I feel alone I feel angry that I don't have a lovey relationship I'm jealous of other people's relationships I want to tell him, but he is in a war zone so I suck it up I feel forgotten since all he worries about is his stupid friends I feel like a bitch because I think his friends are stupid I hurt because he wont tell me that he misses me as much as I miss him I hurt because he is cold and distant I'm upset because I want to give up I'm depressed and just want him to show me that he loves me, a letter, something anything! F this, it doesnt even matter what I feel or think

I want to become a minimalist

As everyone knows I have anxiety and depression on top of other mental issues that I have been dealing with for years. With this deployment I am trying to focus on other things to keep me out of depression, but the heat is not helping. I want to lay around and do nothing, but then again if I even breathe I'm covered in sweat so there is a reason! Haha Today though I have been extremely bored, and with boredom brings anxiety. So since I have no friends here, no one to talk to here, and I really hate bothering people I know in The US I started thinking about getting out and going shopping. Why shopping? I honestly blame Jacksonville, NC for this, there was not a single thing to do there so everyone shopped. It was just what you did, because there was nothing to do! I never shopped before then, ever really, but some how it became my go to for 6 years. There is a problem with this though...you end up with so much crap you could live without. Eventually clutter, and I hate clutter! Everyone on my dads side of the family is a hoarder, my mom says she isn't but she really is, and so I grew up around hoarders. Not the tv show type where you can't walk around, the house was actually very clean but there just seemed to be so much stuff! I always thought we were not like this, until we moved cross country two years ago. It was a realization for me, we have to much! Funny thing is we only filled a medium I think uhaul truck, so it wasn't that bad I guess. Now though we live in a 1400 sq foot home vs our 800 sq foot duplex in NC. So I'm looking around today and I think, in two years we have to move again and I don't want to do that crap again! I want to become a minimalist! The problem is going to be my boredom shopping! My kids don't allow me to do things during the day so I am pretty much bored every day till they go to bed, this will be interesting! Let's figure out how I need to become a minimalist shall we? I say I need a plan of attack! I'm going to start with the living room, it is the closest to being minimal I think, then I'll move to each room with a plan of attack. Let's begin! Living room: What is in here: couch, large entertainment center/book shelf, wheel, bike, Sloans computer desk, Sloans guitar stuff, and a recliner What should go: the recliner, but needs go be replaced with a bookshelf for Sloan because he has tons of books for flight school and work polled on his desk...like I said I hate clutter and his desk drives me nuts! Everything else is nicely organized and clean. Kitchen: You know what is in here What should go: clean off the top of the fridge (all kids stuff!), clean out the appliance cabinet because we don't ever use anything in there but in all honesty it was all gifts we never buy appliance gadget type stuff, clean off countertop I keep it pretty clean but I would nothing at all on it. Hall closet: I just cleaned this out not that long ago and there isn't really anything in it, but I need the reminder to get rid of the kids old jackets that don't fit anymore. We don't need jackets here so they are seriously tiny! Haha Toy room: You know what's in here duh lol Oh how I hate this dang room so much! It annoys me because they rarely play in it, and they always make such a mess when they do! I just did a huge clean out a month ago, but kept things they said they would play with...they still haven't. So, I want to get rid of everything I know for a fact they haven't touched. Besides they just got legos from my mom and they only play those now anyways. Yet again here is another thing we did not buy! We stopped buying toys except for Christmas because my parents always send them stuff. This year I'll be at their house for Christmas so they are not getting anything from me this year. They seriously will not notice so no harm done! The kids rooms: I just did their rooms a month ago and made them minimilist, it's wonderful! Still need go through again just to make sure I'm happy with what is left. Bathrooms: there is nothing in there, seriously haha I have a tiny box of makeup and a tiny box of nail polish plus Sloan and I both only have products we legit use. Our bedroom: Just the dang closet which is mainly just sloans unorganized clothes. He enjoys buying clothes since he goes out with friends to bars, out to eat, etc and I don't so I blame him for the closet! I have two pairs of jeans, 6 shirts, and a pair of shorts. Lol I'm already minimalist in the clothing area! It's called I don't leave the house chic...yes... I think just by organizing his things the closet will be nice, I can't get rid of things of his I don't know what fits and what doesn't. The rest of the bedroom is minimalist, it's where I relax so I make sure there is nothing in there. Craft area: Ugh this is where my shopping habit is shown. I use to be big into crochet and knitting, now I'm not, so I got rid of lots of yarn and all my crochet hooks. Knitting needles and other misc craft stuff still needs to be cleaned out, majority of what I buy I actually do use, I just haven't because of the heat lately (it's insane hot over there). I haven't been to micheals more than once in the past 6 weeks though so yay me! After typing this all out I see I'm close to my minimalist goal! Let's how it goes!

My own little secrets

I never want to work outside of the house till the day I die I want to make a living off my art, even though I'll never be good that. I want to write a book, but my grammar sucks, and even though people tell me I should I know I would suck at it. Everything makes me feel guilty, even that $4 coffee. I lack self confidence, even though I have been told I am intimidating more than once. I desire to be one of those pretty skinny girls that look awesome everyday, but I know I will never be that. I'm far to ugly and chubby to achieve that. I want to go back to age 12 and start over, or at least 3 months after I married Sloan when we chose to have kids. Every time Facebook recommends I friend my bully I want to message him that he ruined who I am, but then that means after all these years he still won...which he has. I hate being a mom. Everyday I struggle very hard mentally It annoys me to see moms that enjoy life, when I have to be heavily medicated just to survive it. People think I just want attention, but I'm actually saying what I truly think and feel. I have been told many times in public that I'm horrible mom because of Jase complaining that he wants to go home and I get mad because I can't ever go anywhere because of him complaining. I want to be able to take Caroline to the beach without hearing Jase a minute into the trip bitching and screaming to go home. I'm anxious every single day meds or no meds. I'm still fighting depression, meds or no meds. I hate my life and I don't know how to like it

Nothing not to love about artists

Today we had to get out to get my medicine refill and me being the type of person that must go more than one place when I have to get the kids dressed to decided we needed to go to the pet store. We like to go there because the kids can watch all the furry animals that mommy wont allow. I'm all for snakes, but mice and rats? Umm no...although mice are cute, still...no. While we were parking I noticed that next to the Trek bikes was an art store I had never been to. I thought why not we will go in there and check it out. First off it was small, but they had everything I love! All the Tim Holtz stuff you could ever dream about, and I wanted it all! haha I was good though and got none, yay me! They had all different types of paints that you don't see at Micheals, canvas galore, and so much more. It was fun to go through and look at everything even though the whole time Jase was complaining he wanted to go home. Then when we were about to leave and I was debating on the size of canvas I wanted to get, Jase started grabbing things and so did Caroline. I have never seen them act this hyper in a store, grabbing and shrieking. I instantly became embarrassed because there were other people near us staring, but then this lady came up to me. She had artist practically written all over her. She had colorful dreadlocks, paint stained clothes, and wearing all black. She looked at me right in the eyes and said "I have never seen kids get so excited about art supplies, you must be an amazing mother to allow them to express their creativity even if it means being loud in an art store." I never even thought of it that way! They were probably just as excited as I was to see all these new paints, the large canvas bigger than them all white and ready for messy fun. I guess some times it takes an outside person to show you what your kids are thinking.